How to Readjust to Social Interaction
As we were physically separated from each other for nearly a year and a half, we also became socially and emotionally separated. We interacted through mediums like ZOOM, texts, and Facetime, but we lacked genuine connection. We became so accustomed to the reality of detachment from each other that we relied on mute buttons or “having WIFI issues” to end conversations.
Since coming back to in-person school, we are in full contact with each other. Many of us are glad to see our friends and get back to the norm, but nothing feels the same. We no longer have the same bonds as we did before and sparking up conversations is awkward. The lack of social skills to feel normal and talk to friends causes us to lose our relationships with them.
Here are some small tips and pieces of advice that I have acquired throughout the past few months of slowly interacting with people again, including friends, family, and just new people that I have (safely!) come into contact with!
Just put yourself out there!
As basic as it sounds, it is a fundamental part of getting back into social interaction with people. Whether you’re talking with someone new or just catching up with a friend, make sure you’re making the most of the situation. Always make sure to make a great first impression, as the initial moments you have with people can make or break an interaction. Step outside of your comfort zone when meeting new people, since you never know what great friends you’ll be able to make just by initiating conversations!
Set small, achievable goals for yourself
Taking small steps is the only way we can improve. Whether it’s meeting a new person or planning a small hangout with friends, doing whatever you can in your power to socialize will create many improvements and motivate you to continue to strive for more. Along the way, you will also develop new and strengthened bonds with others!
Have active listening skills.
Effective conversations consist of both speaking and listening, so actively listening to what others have to say is necessary. This also means that you will be more engaged in the discussion and may discover new topics or ideas that you both share and can expand on! The key to these interactions is to listen, listen, and listen!
Be yourself!
I saved the best for last, as this is the most crucial aspect of socialization. It is probably even more cliché than the first point but still rings true. When putting yourself out there, you should always be yourself and never put on a face, since being fake just to get others to like you will ruin your relationship with them in the long run. You must always be your true and authentic self: don’t feel like you have to meet a certain expectation, because changing yourself ultimately won’t make anything better.
Whether you take away only one or all of these tips, I hope that they will be incredibly helpful. Just remember that improvement only comes with time, so the more effort and practice you put in, the greater the results and growth you will acquire! Happy socialization!
